Red Pill

Desirability is an appearance, its origin is more about the perception that is indirectly communicated to people [that other women find you desirable] than it is about your words and gesture. (…)

Preamble

There is a great deal of nostalgic and tender balderdash when it comes to desire which could be perceived as passionate or poignant. However, much of desire has to do with conceit and avarice and your desire for someone else continually entails communal factors and deliberations that you may not immediately be conscious of. People are drawn by the desirable; those who are appealing to others. When you are aware of this reality, you want to own them for yourself. Knowing this underlying truism about human nature, you may be prone to attempt to complain and pontificate about their egocentrism. Refrain from such behaviour, it will only make you look bitter and envious of their egotism. Instead, exploit it to your benefit and cultivate an aura of desirability around your name.

Forging a Triangle

Realistically, desirability is a game of appearances more than anything else, imparting the illusion that other people find you desirable, which in turn makes you more attractive to the woman you are trying to invite. A successful method to produce this impression is by fabricating what is called a ‘triangle’; introduce a supplementary woman between you and the woman you are trying to attract and ingeniously get your main woman conscious of how the supplementary woman is craving for your attention – To complete the triangle, you can encircle yourself around other women who find you desirable, uncovering certain affairs you’ve had to indirectly rouse desirability; you do not need to be wholly revealing or absolutely genuine about everything. Often, too much genuity deadens the seduction – say less than necessary and leave enough empty spaces for women to fantasize about you. 

Convey the Right Message

If you are inept of appearing desirable from the beginning, you will be enslaved, one way or another, by women’s impulses and then be disowned by her indifference. Many a time, a woman will disown you because her alternative man intimates more popularity and value, in other words, signifying more desirability in the face of others and her friends. Furthermore, her partiality is largely influenced by her hypergamous nature; desirability, social proof, appearance, manner and wealth. Women, undeniably, gravitate towards those men who women want to sleep with and men want to emulate, deserting those men who lack affluence and attractiveness. Women, in particular, will yearn for the man who is desired by various women, especially if she respects the women who desire said man; this will induce her desire all the more. It would also be advantageous to amuse a woman with a mysterious narration of the various women who find you desirable as well as the propositions they put forward to you. This will convey to the woman that you are a favoured and preferred man with women and a strong man of integrity. Furthermore, it will reassure her that she could enjoy the same privilege the other women are benefiting from. 

Desire is an Appearance

Desirability is an appearance, its origin is more about the perception that is indirectly communicated to people [that other women find you desirable] than it is about your words and gesture. Therefore, women’s interest in you could be intensified through this subtle projection of desirability. Ultimately, desire is derivative and ambitious; the former owing to your liking for what others like and the latter owing to your craving to have other peoples’ goods for yourself. Therefore, if you use these platitudes of human nature to your advantage, you can reverse engineer the effect by cajoling people to contend for your attention by conveying the impression I expounded earlier. Philippe Lacoue-Labarthe remarks on Girard’s prominent dissection of this hypothesis; “The basic hypothesis upon which rests Girard’s famous analysis [is that] every desire is the desire of the other (and not immediately desire of an object), every structure of desire is triangular (including the other—mediator or model—whose desire desire imitates), every desire is thus from its inception tapped by hatred and rivalry; in short, the origin of desire is mimesis—mimeticism—and no desire is ever forged which does not desire forthwith the death or disappearance of the model or exemplary character which gave rise to it.” In general, Girard’s ‘mimetic’ desire transpires when a person wants something because it is wanted by another person, who could be represented as the contender. 

In Closing

People’s ambitious cravings are not only galvanized with these applications, their conceit and pride, both of which are chief weaknesses, are lined up and put to use. Knowing that someone is more gifted or wealthy is bearable but to discern that your opponent is more attractive than you is intolerable. When their conceit is endangered, you can influence people to do what you wish; it is your province to determine the degree of uprightness and vileness underlying your deeds. Remember: deceit is not immoral, it is non-discriminatory. Thus, it is how you make use of it that matters; there is nothing unethical about talking an obese patient into growing strong and bettering his poor health. 

Further Reading

• Art of Seduction
• Rational Male
• The Seducer’s Diary
• Heartiste on Game

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Preface

This is the succeeding part of ’The Essential Principles of the Red Pill’. In the previous essay, I discussed the very basic principles that gave newcomers a brief introduction to what the red pill stands for, and for the people familiar, a recollection of the fundamentals. In this second issue, I shall examine four dominant themes; The Biological Imperative and Procreation, Imagination and Frame, The Alpha Mental Picture, and Spinning Plates. The subsequent themes are to some degree more elaborate than those of the preceding issue, nevertheless, they are the crucial building blocks of your substructure and so, they should not be set aside as they are indispensable for grasping Red Pill principles.

The Biological Imperative and Procreation

For the woman to comply with her biological imperative, the feminine had to formulate communal conventions and mechanisms that ensure the woman will, nevertheless, satisfy her biology by entangling with men of superior genes (20% of men) in the short-term, while tying up the men with provisioning in the long-term (80% of men). This imperative is induced through an instinctive necessity for safety and security. Both genders are constrained and to a degree controlled by the development of the sexes. After all, it is only well reasoned to offer your children the most favourable conditions possible for their continuance.

On the one hand, men are such that their reproductive strategy is for their genetic substance to be dispersed to the most expansive range of available females. Conversely, for women, proportionate to her sexual attraction, she will select the foremost conceivable mate that will fulfil her imperative for security and possible offspring. In other words, they are the strainers of their procreation. What is more, is that men must abandon their reproductive agenda to fulfil and provide for the women’s. It is not possible for the woman and the man to comply with their own respective reproductive strategies concurrently, one must be deserted for the other, usually, it is the man who renounces his power.

There is a quandary surrounding single moms, where she bears the child of the ‘good genes’ man, subsequently finds a ‘good dad’, resolves him for provisioning, and assures the man to take care of her ‘good genes’ child. As I have expressed, the short-term implies the alpha, the long-term, the beta and thus, for the woman to secure the benefits of both realms, the indispensability to cheat is prevalent. From the women’s frame of mind, it is not their willed intention to entangle men into abiding by their imperative, rather, it happens heedlessly through the evolutionary expansion of female nature. Nevertheless, they succumb to this dynamic even if they are ignorant of it. From a developmental point of view, this is like coming first in the raffle, hitting two birds with one stone; high-quality genes from the alpha, provisioning and security from the beta.

Imagination and Frame

If there is one tool you ought to master in your toolbox, it would be a woman’s imagination, as it is the most advantageous. Body language, competition anxiety, and demonstrating high value all rest upon the rousing of imagination. If you know how to prompt her imagination, through reframing, concealing information, and acting deliberately enigmatic and puzzling, you have what can be regarded the most potent and profitable tool in your relationships, flings, and so forth.

We are of the belief that honesty is the best policy and chumps, especially, heavily endorse this as they are of the conviction that by being honest people will like you more and you will win the favour of the people. These men are talking gibberish and their ignorance of the underlying dynamics of inter-sexual relations is evident in their words and actions. Women do not in truth hope for you to be wholly honest with them, they want to be amused and messed with. However, chumps, more often than not, divulge everything about their personal life in a single throw and shatter the puzzle before they even start playing. Women feel deep sexual contentment from assuming they have worked out a man through imaginary instinct.

Nevertheless, when a man discloses his personality and narrative through words, the surge of intrigue and suspicion is banished. At that moment, what was once inscrutable and interesting has grown unduly familiar and foreseeable. When you, as it were, fill the unknown ‘blanks’ which she pervades with myth and imagination, you spoil the conundrum and the game you are playing with her. This is a relevant point to refer to Law 4; Always say less than necessary. (48 Laws of Power)

”Power cannot accrue to those who squander their treasure of words.”

Robert Greene, 48 Laws of Power

He who knows how to dispose of his words and signaling is more precious. For the reason that you create dissimilarities through your shortage of words and also, your stateliness is amplified by this very act. Use an excess of words sparingly, you do not want to cultivate an air of ordinariness by becoming loquacious, this makes you look mindless and effortlessly swayed.

”It is even more damaging for a minister to say foolish things than to do them.”

Cardinal de Retz

Contrary to what many women utter, they do not seek consolation with a sexual prospect they want to be involved with. Really, they want to feel eager and excited about your unpredictability, this anxiety is not induced through becoming ordinary to her. She does not desire comfort, she fantasises about the thrill and exhilaration of an enigmatic and reticent sexual partner that knows how to keep her on her heels in anticipation.

An all too common omission White Knights (frustrated chumps) make when going into a relationship with a woman is they relinquish their own frame in order to submit to hers. Frame is essentially your underlying narrative from which you precede. If you possess a strong frame, your discernment is such that you regard yourself highly and are self-concerned, you have dignity and integrity, and you will not disregard them in an acute state of affairs. Having said that, if you renounce your frame for a woman, your frame is frail and inadequate for relationship commitment. A frail frame is one that lacks what the strong frame doesn’t. Below is the contrast in attributes:

Strong Frame: Unpredictable, Integrity, Dignity, High-Regard of Oneself, Disagreeable, Ruthless (when necessary), Self-concerned, Assertive.

Weak Frame: Unstable, Insecure, Timid, Agreeable, Effeminate, Submissive, Hesitant, Vulnerable, Self-less.

The striking contrast between possessing a strong frame as opposed to a weak frame is plainly obvious. This comparison emphasises one distinct point, most men today, for the most part, equate with the weak frame predominantly. The notable minority of men, on the other hand, personify strong frame. Besides, the weak frame is figuratively feminine, and thus, you could draw the inference that most men behave like women as a consequence of their delicate and soft qualities.

You must understand, also, that the frame with which you set foot in your relationship is the basis and ground for the fate of that connection. If you are still of the notion that you will yield to her world and merely exist in it, make yourself a favour and break it off in readiness because you will come out overthrown and thwarted. The consequences of such a defeat will be catastrophic, principally for men with a weak frame. Having contemplated that, your only successful and effectual course of action is for her to enter your world, not vice versa. You are the prize in your eyes and that ought to be your prime concern.

In addition, you must cultivate, through the betterment of your circumstances, the qualities attributed to the strong frame. Predominantly, your sense of dignity and unpredictability, and too, your self-regard and situational ruthlessness. These facets are not developed from day to night, they are symptoms of diligent effort in your pursuits, a prudent study of relevant material, and physical superiority through building up your body. Possessing such qualities will inherently generate a strong frame, as the strength of your frame is the side effect of your essential character. Furthermore, you must learn how to convey meaning covertly, as this is women’s primary medium for communication.

Communicating covertly to your girlfriend will rouse such feelings of misgiving and umbrage that women unconsciously yearn for, and there is a cascade of sexual stimulation involved in conveying particular implications indirectly that gets her hamster reeling out of control. Men’s primary medium of communication is overt and plain to see, such as words, whereas women’s is disguised and undercover. Note: If you want to comprehend a woman’s genuine intentions, watch her actions, not her words. Women are ruled by their emotions, and their words usually do not line up with their actions, you must distinguish the two without error. The majority of men are of the opinion that the essentials of Game cannot be utilised in a relationship or marriage since you have ‘tied’ her up. Here is a fine arcane secret for you; the same temperament and devices necessary to attract her are unchanging and imperative also to retain her.

The Alpha Mental Picture

There are much disagreement and argument in regards to this subject matter. Even if you have been part of the Red Pill for time, there are still numerous errors that need clarification. Instead of beginning by remarking what Alpha is, I shall first point out what it is not, this way, you shall comprehend the mental picture with better lucidity. Alpha is not conditional on your height nor your abdomen, nor your facial structure, and neither on how virile and tough you seem. Nevertheless, these aspects complement and substantially louden your self-image in people’s appreciation. Furthermore, alpha is not at all about being hostile, combative, and uncontrollably autocratic. Having said that, though, possessing the potentiality to exhibit stone-hearted qualities such as ruthlessness and savagery are favourable in the pertinent circumstances.

I shall note here, for further elucidation, that you must rightly differentiate between having the capacity for aggression and being deliberately belligerent by design. On the one hand, the man with the capacity for cruelty is prudent in his conduct, on the other, he is senseless and compulsive to the point of hostility without foresight. You shall, for that reason, identify your flaws and bring them into equilibrium with your strong points. If, for instance, you are excessively aggressive, you shall adjust your care and concern to even out your superiority. Remember: Contrast is majestic, and thus you shall acknowledge and adapt immoderate qualities to make the contrast beguiling and enthralling, not alarming and repulsive.

I shall now discuss the intricacies of the Alpha and elaborate on some points from the preceding bits. Firstly, you ought to recognise that the essential qualities of the Alpha are bound to be muddled by bigotry, this is inevitable. Of course, your self-image is more concerned with how harmoniously it lines up with Alpha attributes. To be able to observe these qualities with an absence of prejudice is unlikely. For people with a natural Alpha affinity, no self-analysis is necessary, they just get it, the frame of mind is internalised and many a time they are ignorant of it. Consider a young boy with a lack of insecurity and self-consciousness, he does not know the turnaround. He is the pure, unconditioned and natural alpha, he discerns and exhibits alpha better than most teenage and adult men, in fact. The rationale behind the boy’s unrefined nature is that the boy has not been made conscious of it, it is undisturbed and as a consequence, his disposition is impervious to external influence.

On that account, Alpha is a state of mind that is not systematic or analytical. Consequently, there are alphas in prison and there are alphas in wheelchairs, the mere variance lies in application, not in their mental outlook. There are various alphas in accordance with differing contexts, however, it is of import to recognise that an alpha mindset is not tied to one environment, it is expansive and situational. Also, I see many men appealing on Reddit whether particular conduct is alpha or beta, this, of course, is a foolish question to ask and is in and of itself beta. Whether one gesture is alpha or beta is beside the point, as being alpha is not a move you make, it is a mental picture you’re in, and that renders your actions in their entirety and not in isolated fragments. So, I encourage you to put an end to imprudent questions like these and concede the bigger picture. For it will be of great bonus for you to consider that your essential nature is knowingly alpha, except, I must add that you shall, at first, unlearn the flawed preconceived notions of your virility that have been imbued within by a society that exterminates your masculine ethos.

The meaning, therefore, is that you are not Alpha as a result of your doing, your doing is the result of being Alpha. Moreover, you hold a value hierarchy and your denotation of alpha is contingent upon your values. Thus, your discernment of someone who you regard alpha does not signify an alpha state of mind. On that note, a man who slept with 200 women and was imprisoned does not immediately translate to him having an alpha mindset by necessity. There are full-blown betas who slept with more than 100 women, not as a direct consequence of having an alpha mindset, but perhaps through physical superiority or notability.

Spinning Plates

“Women would rather share a high-value male than be saddled with a faithful loser.”

Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male

A man’s merit and self-assurance with women is directly proportionate to his power to choose between multiple women. A plate refers to a prospect who you may be involved with unaccompanied by the intention of becoming exclusive with her. Spinning plates is essentially dating multiple women non-exclusively concurrently. This course of action is generally classified by women and betas as dishonest, unprincipled, and downright inappropriate. This leads me to a rather incongruous truism; women are inherently more competent and proficient at spinning plates than men. Yet again, we see the evident conflict between a woman’s actions and her words. Women are hypergamous by nature, they branch swing and filter the superior from the weak. For, their hypergamy necessitates that they continually seek the higher value male.

Hypergamy, in point of fact, does not care whether you take out the trash every morning, buy her flowers on valentines, or pamper her with gifts on her birthday. A woman does not concern herself with your feelings, this is a hard pill to swallow. If you are looking to unfasten your feelings, it better not be with a woman as it is the last thing she anticipates in a man. She does not desire a man who is emotionally vulnerable in her eyes, it dries her up and her respect for him promptly diminishes. She wants a stoic rock, not an unfortified gentle child. If you need emotional release, find deviant means but never go to your woman for resolve, it will be disastrous. Spinning plates enables you to exercise objectivity and aloofness, both of which women cannot resist.

Through spinning different plates you are less invested in each, this lack of investment manifests as a consequence of your growing choices, and in turn, provides you with a frame of mind of abundance that women, principally, detect. Their discernment is such that you are seen as a man that is desired by other women and that induces in her competition anxiety that sexually excites her. What’s more, this state of affairs brings about a shift in your conduct that radiates a natural aura of confidence that high-value alpha men, predominantly, seem to exhibit almost effortlessly. This is a consequence of profusion, what you have done is overturned the narrative and got women to contend for your time and yielding to your frame instead of the ordinary reversal. In other words, you are the prize.

Cocky Funny, for instance, is a manner which Alpha males exhibit by nature, they do not think about it, it is an aspect of their temperament. For, it is commonplace behaviour for men with choices to conduct themselves with a playful cockiness and a comical aspect. Thus, this must be recompensed by men with a lack of options by exercising it around women throughout daily interaction. It shall be implemented voluntarily until you get more prospects in line, and it will increasingly become second nature as your abundance of women grows and your game gets tighter.

Spinning plates is, furthermore, the countermeasure to oneitis (refer to part 1). The deliberate act of seeing multiple women concurrently arms you with the adequate assurance and credence that if one plate tumbles over, you have got two or three more plates who are sexually available for you to fill the space. When women notice that you are hardly troubled by it, they become enraged and in numerous instances, come creeping back into your life. The way you let her go without concern, knowing you cannot negotiate desire while enjoying other choices, she grows diffident yet captivated by your unemotional, steady demeanour.

Understand: You shall cultivate with your plates unsparing transparency as well as a responsibility to sincere non-exclusivity with them. By doing so, you retain frank choices and you are both on the same page. If she does not comply, she is welcome to leave under those terms. By exercising honest non-exclusivity, you also insinuate that you got other options, or give the impression that you do. If you are cunning, utilise sincerity in this circumstance to disguise your artifice in another. Women are naturally more cunning than men, thus, play your cards competently and make her play with the cards you deal. It is of good value to note, that you do not convey your honesty overtly through words, you make your intentions known covertly.

If you got social proof from other women, all the better. Indirect means are always most favourable, for they have an element of ambiguity that leaves women gaps to fantasise. For instance, if you are with a plate at a house party, and another plate happens to be there, do not be reluctant to flirt with the other plate and rouse some jealousy. To sum up, if you expand a strong frame (refer to Imagination and Frame), exercise honest non-exclusivity, the right impression will be evidently implied in your actions. As a side note, be prudent in your words.

Further Reading

• The Rational Male
• Art of Seduction
• Heartiste on Game
• 48 Laws of Power

Preface

The origins of what we now call the red-pill dates back to the early 2000s, on a pick-up forum which was at that time known as SoSuave. SoSuave was simply a forum where guys discussed Game, exchanged ideas, and so forth. Much of the theory associated with the red pill finds its basis on that forum, which later became known as the Manosphere. The three R’s of the Manosphere are Roissy, Rollo and Roosh. They were moderators of the SoSuaveForum and became widely regarded as the prime movers of the praxeology because of their extensive contribution to the members who took part.

With that said, the Red Pill is more about unlearning a set of pre-conditioned beliefs that cause you to behave in such a manner that contradicts your unrefined, authentic masculine nature and I shall discuss this more in depth in the subsequent chapters. I shall note also, before I dive in to the intricacies, that there is what is called in the Manosphere as the ‘5 Stages of Unplugging’. Therefore, if you are met with resistance and refusal, you have been warned. This is part of the process, you must accept the verity that when your strongly held beliefs that you have much attachment to are at stake, you are bound to oppose it.

The red pill essentially arms men with the tools they need to transcend the anti-masculinity via feminism that is prevalent today in our culture. It is a composite of improving and prioritising yourself and your state of affairs as well as leveraging your sexual strategy, and capitalising on the revolt that is transforming society. The opposing counter-part of the red pill is the blue pill, which refers to the rivalry of men who are still conforming to the feminine imperative. These men are much like ordinary men, except the difference is that they express their opposition out of a lack of knowledge of the complexities of the dynamic. Many men know better than that, but most men don’t. The red pill is the strongest and most pertinent opposition to feminism that is prevalent today, it is much like the messenger that delivers men out of their preconceived beliefs and awakens them to a set of dynamics that they were previously ignorant and unaware of.

Needless to say, experience will be your messenger even if you disregard everything you read in this essay. Experience is the wisest teacher of all, it teaches you cruel truths that you will only fathom when you encounter it in actual life. The harsh truth is the toughest pill to swallow, internalising it is a long and bitter road, but experiencing it first hand will accelerate your mastery over it tenfold, especially if you are also diligently studying the appropriate red pill material.

Elaborating on all the derivations would make for an excessive preface, so I shall refute from explaining further presuming that many of you will have a basic foundation already in place, and dive straight into the core of this piece of writing. In closing, do not take everything as verbatim, I want you to inquire and become an onlooker of human nature. This is when it gets gripping because you need not believe in something that is evident in the real world, since you know its truthfulness. These dynamics are at play day and night, it is literally that apparent. You do not need to look out for it arduously, it is there for all to see. Except, everyone is blind to it because they have blue-tinted glasses that misrepresent the authentic and basic colours.

Your Soulmate is Fictional

Most men are of the belief that somewhere out there, there is that ‘one’ unicorn that will be awaiting them, someone who they will share their life with forever. This is much like Disney make-believe in real life, except people are convinced by it in the most serious way. They have been brought up in a culture of idealistic myths that for the most part, have been imbued upon them in their boyhood when their vulnerability is their thumbscrew. This is scarcely a practical way of orienting your life and too oftener than not, it makes you powerless and numb.

Let me break it to you, there is no ‘one’ or ‘soulmate’ waiting for you and if you, by some means have not realised by now, you have heard it here first. With the good comes the bad, and thus there are ample good ones and ample bad ones. If you are getting hung up on the notion that your supposed ‘soulmate’ has broken it off with you, I will make you a point of assurance, and tell you that she is just like all the other women out there, you exclusively put her up on a pedestal because of your discerned imaginary ideals of her and how you anticipate to be treated by her.

As the culture in the West grows more effeminate, this romanticised myth have become so prevalent and permeating that it has come to be comparable to a declaration of divinity or faith and furthermore, it has coalesced with myriad different dogmas of religion. When one is intoxicated of such a fallacy, this is known as ‘oneitis’. Oneitis is a detrimental mental helplessness and clinging that is the consequence of the uninterrupted circulation of the fallacy in our society. More alarming is the fact oneitis has come to be equated to having a wholesome relationship or matrimony with another.

Essentially, the soulmate myth deliberately damages your natural predispositions and as a result, you struggle to see clearly. The notion, furthermore, that men have an unprocessed ability for security and provider-ship in a monogamous relationship is indisputably not induced under the psychological vulnerability and debilitation of oneitis. This is a sharp paradox; they acknowledge your power, and then take it away from you through the psychological impotence that you become a victim of as a result of corrupt dogma and blind faith.

Men are fundamentally advancing the feminisation of culture, adhering to ideals proposed by women, and happily conforming to them like the utter chumps that they are. When the woman knows for certain that she is your only source of sexual fulfilment and closeness, you have handed her all the power she wished for from you.

Recognise, your capacity does not stem from authority, status, or material wealth. It stems from acknowledging how much jurisdiction you have in your life. Cultivate an understanding of the underlying misconception that permeates our culture and grasp that there are good and bad ones, but never simply ‘one’.

The Fundamental Rule of Relationships

” In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.”

Rollo Tomassi

You can disregard this axiom, needless to say, the dynamic is still in play if you are in an intersexual relationship with another. You are adequate for her, and you measure up to a myriad of basis, and her to yours. A relationship would not commence with her if this were not the case. Whether you are conscious of it or not, you unconsciously and intrinsically assess your women, you utilise contrast and juxtapose every aspect about her, mainly in the opening desirability to resolve whether she is sufficient for your affinity.

A relationship in good condition transfers control as requisite and yearning entail. If your relationship is the product of deranged deception of jurisdiction, you may already know it is detrimental to your mental well-being. This occurs for various reasons, there are two courses of action. The compliant partner allows the manipulation to transpire, or the dominant partner starts the manipulation. Anyhow, the one who requires the other less has more control, and the principle still holds its pertinence. This is so prevalent in our society today that it is hardly unnoticeable, especially if you are a student of human nature.

The fundamental rule is observed in different light, assaulted women crawl back to their disparaging husbands or boyfriends, and thirsty chumps undermine their identity and disregard their resources to conform to their women’s lack of confidence. In other words, alpha seed, beta need. The purpose of this rule, consequently, is to awaken men to the reality that they are the prize to be won over and not the other way around. Most young men are already susceptible to depreciate themselves and glorify women to a large extent, they make it their objective in life and this is tremendously sterile and deplorable.

Invariably, agreement and understanding are part of any relationship, but it is crucial for you to recognise that when acquiescence becomes the consequence of dishonesty and duplicity, you should have utmost self-assurance and dignity to be inflexible in such a state of affairs. Surrendering your argument with your girlfriend is not dishonourable. What is reprehensible, though, is when you frequently make concessions merely to avoid upset because she will refuse to give you intimacy if you assert your frame. This is what is coined in the Manosphere as the ‘fitness-test’ or ‘shit-test’. It is a power play that determines a number of character variables to gauge your strength and nerve.

Women’s intimacy is never worth your agreement, your value to her is directly proportionate to your willingness to compromise her intimacy. By compromising, you denigrate your merit. In fact, women do not want you to comply with their conditions as they would more readily bow to a self-directed man. However, they would rather you get that and act accordingly instead of them having to utter it to you as if you’re her child. If they need to tell you how to conduct yourself, it implies that you are not that by your immediate nature and that is anti-seductive.

A man who is unwilling to comply, out of his sufficient understanding and confidence, to the ruthless nature of the feminine, is the man who is to be chased after. Such men, today, are a dying breed and represent the minute minority of the male population. This is the alpha male that women fall to their knees over, for he has the courage and dignity to confidently walk away with the knowledge that better prospects await him. This man understands that a relationship with a woman, that is based upon abiding to her deceit, is a destructive and futile connection to pursue. Moreover, his sexual appeal generates for him a vast range of female prospects who will be more than willing to share him with additional women.

Understand: you must get your act together and recognise that you always had the answers. However, when you keep looking for more answers, you forget where you stand and never act, out of terror. This is paralyses, you should re-evaluate limiting self-beliefs that weigh you down because they have no utility whatsoever. Prioritise and incrementally better yourself, do not go out of your way to assist others before you have gained mastery over yourself.

Real Desire Cannot Be Consulted

Desire cannot possibly be worked out or arranged with a woman. Most men are capable of killing genuine desire in less than 6 months, and in innumerable cases, in less than a few weeks or months. Except, they misinterpret the state of affairs because they are unknowledgeable of the underpinnings. Familiarity breeds contempt. It kills your ‘game’ at full tilt, you do not know how to keep your distance and the thrill that pervaded your initial attraction is wiped out. At this point, further negotiation of genuine desire is insufficient in her eyes, and this is hardly realised among men.

Regardless of what terms you confer to your girlfriend, her genuine desire for you is not present and this cannot possibly be arranged or negotiated in any possible method. Any attempt to do so is confirming to her that you are not sufficient to put her to the side and move on. Negotiated desire breeds obligation, you or your girlfriend may comply with your terms, not out of genuine intrigue, but out of duty you have imposed on her. This may not be apparent to you out of ignorance, but men with a rather scarce mentality have an all-too-common tendency of negotiating desire as the pain associated with letting her go is more acute than sustaining an inadequate and poor relationship.

Genuine desire is never conferred on a woman, it is a feeling she gets that arises on its accord, spontaneously. Having understood that, your overt attempt at reconditioning said desire will invariably never induce genuine desire, merely obligation, as it is utterly impractical to talk a woman into feeling that way following your excessive familiarity and consolation. The genuine intrigue she felt for you was grounded in a culmination of undisclosed ingredients.

Aim for genuine desire in your affairs, this is what makes the game worth playing. Thus, when you know you will not pursue women who do not want to please you, you are in better posture to find a suitable prospect that will be fixated out of genuine desire and not obligation. The only way to stimulate genuine desire is through covert means, never through words. If she is unaware of your effort to rouse it, she will assume that she is feeling this way out of authentic desire and not out of commitment.

Closing Note

To avoid making this essay lengthy, I have split it in several parts for the reader’s perusal and understanding. This will not bore you (the reader) with an overabundance of writing at once. If you have made it to the end, I am honoured to have written for you and will be pleased to have you back.

Further Reading

• The Rational Male
• Heartiste on Game
• Art of Seduction