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On Learning and Wisdom

August 2, 2021 by Artful Prudence Leave a Comment

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Men whose words are thoughtful yet actions improper are distasteful. We are so hurried in asking the usual questions: whether one can speak this language or that, or write poems, or recite a piece of history, or interpret something profound, or clarify a quirky idea. Yet the most significant question is the last to be attended to; namely, whether man has been made better and wiser. We shall discover, then, who has the foremost understanding, not who has lots of it. So, the more abundant our souls, the more they enlarge.

It is no surprise that neither the expert nor the student grow more apt despite knowing more. It is the attitude with which we get to grips with the sciences that is inapt and brings rise to baseness. In point of fact, the supervision of our parents is directed towards equipping our brain with knowledge, letting pass the weight of merit and discernment. In Montaigne’s words, “judgement can do without knowledge: but not knowledge without judgement.” Knowledge is menacing in a feeble hand which can’t command it. Not only retarding the master, but hurting him. Even worse, the students and their tasks are not nurtured and strengthened by their learning. It is handed around with one aim in sight. The aim being affectation and show, as if it were a handy token for amassing and creating assertions, yet having no higher utility.

What we do is tend to others’ judgements and learning, failing to reform it to our good. We bear similarity to a man who, longing for a fire, moves to his neighbour to get a spark, then stays there having noticed a large glare to warm him, neglecting his home and its gloom. What value is there in having a full stomach if we don’t assimilate the food? If we are not inwardly transformed, if we are not fortified and enlarged, we have put in more than we have absorbed. Hence, it confirms that we have been taught how to talk with everyone except ourselves. We acquired knowledge of copious theory, but how many are able enough to use it? Cicero said, ‘We do not need talk but helmsmanship.’ As erudite as we may be with another’s bent, it is our own wisdom that makes us wise. We assent to rest and depend so decisively and to excess on another’s weaponry that we tear down our might. He was meant to arrive home with a richer soul but he returns with a bloated one. He filled it with air rather than enrich it with power.

“I hate a sage who is not wise for himself.”
Euripides

Dionysius found it comical that professors who read up on the unpleasant features of Ulysses knew nothing of their flaws. Their flutes were congruous but their ethics discordant; speakers talking of justice yet not being themselves just. Wisdom must be benefited from, not merely acquired. As Cicero remarks, ‘We must not only obtain Wisdom: we must enjoy her.’ There is nothing to be lost if they don’t instruct you how to properly think and act. Knowledge is not solely to be glued to your spirit – this is pseudo practice. It ought to be embodied and absorbed; the soul infused and marinated with knowledge, not heedlessly drizzled.

“Now that so many are learned, it is good men that we lack.”
Seneca

Learning casts no understanding on a lacking soul. It will not confer sight to the imperceptive. Its function is to instruct his judgement rather than grant him the ability to see. To see clearly is not to see straight. Man discerns the good but doesn’t conform to it, he perceives knowledge but fails to wield it. Agesilaus was once asked what children ought to be taught, he replied, ‘What they should do when they are grown up.’ Further, when he encouraged Xenophon to have his boys raised in Sparta, it was neither for rhetoric nor argumentation, but to learn the most worthy discipline there is: ‘how to obey and how to command.’

The Combat between Aeneas and Turnus, by Milani

In the Republic, the principal law is to assign the citizens responsibilities based on their temperament. According to Plato, their firstborn son in the regal descent was hardened to a stern and high-principled training. Following his emergence, he was handed over to eunuchs rather than women: owing to their righteousness, they held the foremost power in the king’s court. They too were at the helm of cultivating his physical state. When the boy turned seven, they trained him in riding and hunting. When he turned fourteen, they entrusted him to four noble men; the most sagacious, the most fair-minded, the most restrained and the most courageous. The first man instilled faith, the second truthfulness, the third discipline and the fourth fearlessness.

“Whose minds are made by Titan with gracious art and from a better clay.”
Juvenal

The Persians desired to abbreviate the expedition. Proper study can only educate us on what wisdom, heroic deeds and strength of will comprise, but they ventured to place their youngsters in direct contact with truth, with reality, instructing them not merely by idle talk but by diligent evaluation, forcefully shaping their nature by acts and precedents over word and tenet. The soul shall not merely know wisdom, it shall be its essential character: an ingrained mark rather than a thing obtained. Those firm youth loathed subjection of any kind except that of merit and goodness, thus furnished not with masters of art, but masters of wisdom, bravery and fairness, as stated in Plato’s Laws. Their system of instruction embraced raising questions about men’s verdicts and acts. Whether by censure or commendation, the students had to give grounds for their assertions, in doing so they honed their intellect and acquired a knowledge of what is just and correct.

They were accustomed to move to Grecian towns searching for orators, musicians and painters, while others to Sparta for generals, political leaders, and law-givers. In Athens, you learn to speak rightly; in Sparta, to act rightly. The former to untangle and solve specious reasoning and disregard the sanctimony of deviously entwined words, the latter to extricate themselves from the pitfalls of indulgence and honourably despise the threats of fate and death. While the Athenians were engaged with the constant teaching of language, the Spartans were engaged with the constant teaching of spirit. In military rule, instances demonstrate that learning the arts and sciences softens and effeminizes men’s core rather than instruct them to be dense and prepared for battle and bloodshed.

Sense and Responsibility

July 30, 2021 by Artful Prudence Leave a Comment

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“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”
Marcus Aurelius

To value the judgement of a person you despise and know to be faulty is idiotic. Cicero was correct: despicable people should not ever be held in high regard. Further, Livy says that ‘Nothing is less worth esteeming than the mind of the many.’ Many a time, we commit a great deal of energy to the undeserving and unbecoming – people who aren’t really worth our notice. And even knowing how little it’s worth, you decide to push aside that reality and disturb yourself with gratuitous pettiness. Trivialities are a futile means to unsettle yourself – and indeed, the mind of the many is reasonably distorted and fallacious.

By a little sense, you will discover the indifference of the collective psychology; its counterblast and antagonism should not be your concern. If you invest too much in the unworthy, you mislead yourself and misplace your precious time. It is useful to know who merits your time and who doesn’t; who will be constructive and who will be destructive. Often, it is tougher to form an accurate judgement yet unchallenging to form a mistaken one and straying away from effectiveness. Time and again, men are immoderately attentive to futile things that inhibit their own fruitfulness, unknowing of what is rewarding and gainful – if you don’t know what to dispose of and what to retain, you will naturally confound yourself. When you know something ought to be thrown away yet disdain doing so, you shall carry along its disagreeable reactions. On the other hand, when you know something is worth holding on to, you shall likewise carry along its agreeable benefits.

Accordingly, not all weights are worth carrying and not all pleasures worth savouring. The obstructive and wounding burdens inflame and multiply by time: these are the very misfortunes you had the liberty to stay away from yet ignorantly acceded to. Oddly, you tend to dismiss worthwhile burdens in pursuit of bearing the detrimental ones. Enriching duties are a threat to the weak and detrimental ones a temptation and a trap. The former owing to cowardice, the latter to wretched blindness and indisposition.

Aurelius was unerring when he observed the bizarre nature of man: so self-absorbed yet so concerned of others’ judgements of his nature; even more than his own. Vanity is not a detour that releases you from a lack of confidence. If you manage to curb and refine your egotism, amending any uncertainty and reforming your flaws, you will come to understand the clear edges of the external world; what is controllable and what isn’t. It appears to me that man’s vanity tends to come more from a posture of self-doubt than conviction. For if man was assured, he wouldn’t trouble himself by slights or feel injured by opinion. Such is the mark of man’s wretchedness; there is no other creature who matches up to his misery.

Apollo and Marsyas, by Bartolomeo Manfredi

Misery makes you fragile, often self-pitying. And by wretchedness, you misjudge things. If you were firmer and less wretched, you would bear well founded judgement to tell things apart – you would not bother yourself with anything indifferent; your chief concern would be with things within reach. The poor and pitiful retard their might by clinging to outward things for safety and ease – they neither mature nor learn the art of self-government. Dependency is insecurity: if you were self-governing, your chief concern would be your opinion of yourself, not others’ of your own. You wouldn’t lie to or misdirect yourself to escape a troublesome reality. Other people are not the problem, how you deal with them and what you think are the seed of misfortune. You conquer yourself by breaking off the chains of attachment and journeying away from home. Look inside, not outside, to discover what you’re made of.

You can’t cling indefinitely, this apparent protection you discern in others is also tarnished by insecurity, as everything – you’ll never have total security. Being forever reliant and helpless, you never sense responsibility; you don’t grow ripe. True sovereignty is found outside the limitations of dependence through realizing the extremities of resilience. Dependence doesn’t exercise resilience and bravery scarcely manifests in the needy. Neediness is deprived of bravery: would they be so needy if they were more manly? Courageous deeds bring out the worth of man: the battleground being the expanding landscape, where safety is off duty and menace ever nearby. It is toil, hardship and patience – necessities that brush up character as you find out how to reconcile yourself to challenging duties. So, it is not dependence that directs virility, but your separation from it that will be the message-bearer.

Don’t allow reality to pass you by unnoticed. An existence curbed by ease and comfort is improper of man. Man has a moral obligation to cut the cord and burst the borders of subjugation to uncover and regain his merit. It is not so much about being optimistic as it is about your readiness to shoulder a threatening endeavour – in the grand scheme, confronting danger provokes the desirable transformation. Your treasured strengths lay barren amidst repose, but are honed amidst the hardship of heroic deeds. Man ought to habituate himself to difficulty to master his over-reliance. By learning how to deal with difficulty, you grow the thunderous monster within.

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Leadership: Elevating Man’s Spirit

July 26, 2021 by Artful Prudence Leave a Comment

Opening

Leaders are largely responsible for the unity and harmony of the group. It is useful to understand the subtleties involved in elevating and preserving a high spirit that will drive triumph. By deficient morale, not only will you breed chaos and disorganisation among the group, but you will discompose the psychology of your subordinates. Knowing how to induce in your group the proper vigour and enthusiasm is indispensable, and the way you do that is by competently adapting their precedence to agree with the group.

The puzzle to influencing people and preserving their spirit is to compel them to orient themselves to the group. Form a campaign at odds with a detested adversary and involve them in it. Adapt their perception so that their continuance appears binded to the prosperity of the entire circle. Emotions are transmittable – a group involved in zealous emotional bonding makes it easier to incite passion.

As a leader, your actions must be an exemplary demonstration. Your secondaries should discern your struggle and acknowledge your honest commitments – this will encourage them to mirror your heroic deeds. Remember: a driven group will often compensate for a deprivation in resources. Man is by nature egocentric: his first thought tends to be concerned with selfish interests. On top of that, he tends also to conceal self-centredness to make his motivation appear self-sacrificing and contrary to reality. You may presume that your associates are sincerely passionate and interested, as their word and gesture indicates so.

Bit by bit, you come to perceive a different reality; they are exploiting their role for private interests. There’s a lot to learn from history’s finest commanders. To get people to work together and preserve team spirit, you must know how to make them feel part of a purposive group. This will deflect their attention from selfish interest while gratifying their inherent urge to feel part of an elevated cause. The more they appraise the group, the more their own interests and the group’s dovetail in agreement. Team spirit is like an infectious disease; it spreads rapidly. If you place people in a well integrated and high-spirited environment, they will naturally attune to it – and if they recoil and regress to selfishness, they will be secluded from it. Your responsibility, then, is to immediately set up this interplay. After all, it can come only from the superior.

The Grand Purpose

It is basic human nature; people have a hankering appetite to believe in anything persuasive. There is an internal void, and they sense its futility, as they soon realize that it can’t be satisfied by drugs or brutality. This sense of vacancy is advantageous – you can assure them of a high-minded cause worth fighting for. By their deprivation and futility, they are disposed to be convinced by your enthralling reasoning. When you unite people for a ‘grand’ purpose, the generated force moves people and stirs vigour and fire. Your incentive should be forward-looking, adapted to the time and tending to the future, as if ordained to be successful. If you think it essential, adding a spiritual impression could be convenient. In addition, it is most advantageous to have a rival in sight, a loathed opposer – he will assist in establishing a compelling narrative.

Don’t Coddle Your Men

If people sense that they have been used to good advantage, their inborn egotism rises to the top. Knowing you have been betrayed or cheated on is a source of fervent unease that incites in people an urge to defy authorities. You want to avoid this situation at all costs by making them feel genuinely included, looked after and valued. On the other hand, you don’t want to impair their disposition by undue recompense. Don’t pamper them by excess pay, instead ensure they are furnished with sufficient comfort, so they know they are being carefully attended to. The patriarchal protection of a leader puts people at ease, even muffling their self-obsession and firing up their strength.

Demonstrate the Ideal

If you don’t practice what you teach, you’re not a true leader. Deficiency and disquiet are often a consequence of a lack of leadership and incongruity. Your inferiors ought to notice your thoughtfulness, if you’re not properly bearing the same hazards and burdens, they will inevitably feel let down by your indisposition. You must command from the front, not the back. In other words, you shall give them a run for their money by coercing them into keeping abreast.

Engage their Emotions

The foremost means to actuate people is by emotion more than reason. Humans are by nature resistant. If you start by appealing to emotion, you will rouse doubt and they will discern you as conniving. Firstly, lessen their resistance and compel group bonding by settling an amusing presentation to elevate the mood and encourage connection. Once they grow more passionate, a more sincere proposal is viable as you comfortably transition from humour to indignation or distaste.

Selective Kindliness

Ample recompense disfigures their temperament while making them neglect your authority. On the other hand, ample punishment knocks down the group spirit. Your kindness, then, should be sparse yet relevant. If you excessively apply it, its innate potency will be denigrated. Make others contend to charm you, so that through their striving, they are endowed with more kindliness and less cruelty.

Closing

In sum, the duty of the leader is to understand the inner workings of the group as well as how to properly push the right buttons of each individual, so that there is as little discord as possible while preserving a constant harmony among his subordinates. Without such a thorough understanding, there will be perpetual confusion, disagreement and defiance. To maintain high morale and unity, inclusion and steadiness are imperative. Remember: without stirring up opportune emotions, there will be a shortage of morale, faith and trust – all of which are crucially important for the group’s concurrence.

On Persistence

July 9, 2021 by Artful Prudence Leave a Comment

There is one hardy quality that is substantially underemphasised; it’s called persistence – a powerful trait sold short. Truthfully, you know you can do away with some extra tenacity, right? If you don’t grasp precisely what I purport by persistence, it is your capacity to press on with a course of action in spite of strain and opposition. If truth be told, is there a more betraying mark of singular character than your ability to show determination with things that clamour for courage and tenacity when the longing to relent is exceptionally irresistible? That sensible proverb is ever pertinent, “Constancy is the mark of virtue.” By a lack of endurance, you sell yourself short, by desisting forbearance, you take the leisurely course and come to naught. Sure, the easy course is approachable and well off, but what merit does it requite? Nothing neighboring valour and noble-mindedness.

The Mark of Virtue

In contrast, if in the face of austerity, you conjure up bravery and face the impending burden with unmoved poise and dig out something intuitive. Specifically, the knowledge that what you call ‘hardship’ and ‘pain’ is unavoidably crucial to your unfolding might, and there is no necessity for a means to elude it. It begs the question: is suffering really contemptible as it is auspicious? If by your disposition to bear it, it has proved advantageous, isn’t your appetite to escape it sterile and vain? It seems to me so. This is an insupportable veracity to timid cowards. They recoil from privation, they banish the reward of moral strength and spirit and have a latent aversion to all things unpleasant. Cowards are dead still, paralysed by idiocy. Great men forge ahead, but remain unshaken by virtue of unity. There is, nevertheless, a corollary to the principle; the good accorded is not invariably the good you thirst for, but the good you conceivably stand in need of.

Desire and Demand

Repeatedly, what you require and what you desire are contrastive. In fact, if you are stripped of truth, the odds are stacked against you. For a melodious stability between desire and demand, an integral temperament is of the essence. If such a nature has not been fostered, acclimatize yourself to things you resist and require. If something fruitful kindles your resistance, dig beneath the surface and you will unravel the truth. Naturally, you will infer a sense of hostility towards this undertaking. Your opening judgement already persuaded you; maybe the time is inappropriate or the mood disagreeable. All this bigotry is an exposition of your shrinking reluctance to assault reality. Look after your reason when empty yet cogent impressions attempt to pollute your judgement; unjustified, jaundiced and erroneously reassuring – irrational biases are uncooperative, they win over the idiotic but come to grief with the wise. When clarity is lost, you cling to faulty logic, as you mistakenly lead yourself down a road of self-deception.

Resist and Persist

The Stoics were champions of persistence, they considered it a determining quality in man. In Epictetus’ Discourses, there are two words of honour; resist and persist. Resistance is the ability to withhold capitulation, persistence the ability to continue the course. The spirit of man is coalesced by this exemplary fusion of self-control. If you reach freedom by a firm hand, you will discern that abstaining from indulgence and pressing on with a sturdy incentive will extricate you from enslavement. If you’ve met the effects of intemperance, you know the revulsion of surplus – it leaves you desensitized and befuddled by mayhem. When lack of self-control proves vain, discipline is the only sensible antidote to affliction.

The Pursuit of Meaning

Mastery over restraint is mastery over tenacity – to govern your desires and command, you not only desist superfluity but also follow through with it. It is not your needs that unnerve you, but your impetuous desires. Extreme abundance is needless for sufficient maintenance – in reality, you desire ample in pursuit of pleasure and decadence, not meaningful repletion. The more pampered and disfigured, the less satisfied by sufficiency, as you continually demand more than what’s needed to pacify your urges. You are clasped by intemperance, disconcerted by an alluring snare, and coerced into devouring an inexhaustible amount of unpalatable delights. In the hands of the bastard, fulfilling pleasures rapidly grow into deplorable vices. The depraved sabotage beauty by weakness, their abandon renders them incapable of wallowing in true bliss – their lack of bearing chips away the soul of things. When decadence is perpetuated to its edge, it dismantles your psyche – you are swimming in a pool of affliction, sorrow, sin and depletion.

Hold the sensible way: saturate your life with meaning by forming a vision; a noble aim that cuts across your present self. Your holy grail should pose a threat, but your ambition should provoke audacity. If your aims don’t bully you, enlarge them. Let their ominousness be the power source by which you set alight your breath of life, upholding it in your actions. The way of truth is skywards; a triumph over aversion and opposition. Trust that you, with all your infirmities and vulnerabilities, could be greater than who you are today. If you forget who you could be, you will go on breathing a counterfeit existence – a dire squandering of possibility. A surfeit of uncertainty yields to passivity, not resilience; to timidity, not bravery. The weak are afflicted; both by the preservation of unhappiness and by their reluctance to undergo the inevitable burdens to rectify their poor circumstance. Who you are and who you could be are far apart; but if you go through the necessary trials in pursuit of your higher ideal, you will indisputably flourish – time is your rival, and aspiration your ally. Even when you are reduced to ashes, your bravery in the face of hardship is worth your while.

Musings on Diligence and Ability

July 3, 2021 by Artful Prudence Leave a Comment

The diligent-average will accomplish more than the superior-lazy. Assiduity outshines superiority, when excellence lacks constancy. In other words, it’s better to be average yet hard-working, than bright yet idle. To acquire prestige and repute, industrious effort is crucial. Valuable things come at a dear price, but cheap things don’t. A man of merit becomes worthy by paying the price – if that price is economical, its inherent purpose and value is rejected.

Truthfully, you can inhabit a superior role but still lack proper application. Remember, superiority does not definitely equal superior practice. You can be superior in intelligence yet inferior in application – industriousness is not analogized with intelligence. It is rare for a man to eclipse his natural temperament. Things that are irreversible by nature can’t possibly be rectified beyond their fringes. The only way to acknowledge your limits is by endeavouring to exceed them. It is only when you overstep the apparent boundaries that you find out where they truly lie. If not, you’re simply making prejudiced predictions based on nothing more than suggestive symbols.

If you are satisfied being mediocre in a dull pursuit when you could be excellent in an honourable one, you are misplacing capability and resigning virtue for subservience. Self-awareness is crucial; if you don’t know where your strength lies, you’re liable to put it in the wrong place. You don’t want to confuse strength for weakness, nor vice versa. Ability and potentiality must be fully acknowledged, as well as imperfection. Endeavour to apply yourself carefully and diligently, for only when capability is rightly carried out is there sound competence. Imbue your work with personality and dexterity, but ensure persistent and efficient application.

The man of purpose identified his aptitude and enhanced it by application and knowledge. There is no knowledge without failure and there is no bettering of application without knowledge. Extract knowledge from failure and imbue that understanding in your application. Advancement is the product of adaptation and wisdom. Your lifeblood should penetrate through your work, braced by distinctiveness and exquisite style. Make your craft an art in itself, elevate its beauty by graceful execution and fluidity, moderate its ugliness by assured superiority. Mastery heightens your genius and allays your blunders; when you have reached a degree of proficiency, minor errors become inconsequential because the grand delivery outshines all else.

Character and expertise move in unison, one kindles intensity and aspiration, the other fruitfully manifests them. Where there is passion, there is potency; where there is potency, your aspirations are realized and carried out. Passion compels ambition, potency compels efficacy. Everyone has a natural bent that balances nature itself; its recognition tends to be accompanied by burning vigour and a stark curiosity. Ponder what fires up your attention and competence, there you will discover budding potential and profound meaning. No man should go through life doing things he truthfully detests – your time is limited, pick a profession that encourages your virtue. It is one thing to feel forced to do something you hate, but another thing to feel sincerely compelled by preference to persist in the direction of your impassioned goals.

It is more useful to be diligent yet unintelligent than intelligent yet lifeless. Respect is earned by rigour. The admirable not only skilfully and continually carry out their work, but do so with an imperturbable head. Neither capability nor application are requisite in the absence of the other, both must be amalgamated and fused with conscientiousness and intent. Constant imperfection teaches you more than inconstant excellence. The man who makes an appearance, even when marked by failure, extricates something useful; but the undisciplined obstruct their excellence by a lack of discipline and fail to thrive, in spite of impeccability.

When laziness and arrogance meet, excellence is diminished. To preserve a virtue, you must be virtuous, otherwise you simply tarnish what is good by what is relatively bad. The practical way to conquer laziness is by learning to consistently do small-scale tasks, why? Because by committing yourself to what is realizable, your efforts compound. In due course, you are building a nature that transcends your present condition; it’s called having impetus.

When you have impetus and a realistic plan, you are magnifying value and virtue; forbearance, endurance and resolution. What were small-scale commitments are now significant methods well implanted in your temperament: they serve your intent and nurture your virtue, strength and efficacy. Neither inefficiently effective, nor efficiently ineffective, but efficient and effective. The former by organization, discipline and structure, the latter by competence, skill, and experience.

Woman’s Means of Communication

June 23, 2021 by Artful Prudence Leave a Comment

‘There are two things a real man likes – danger and play; and he likes woman because she is the most dangerous of play things.‘
Friedrich Nietzsche

Introduction

Communication is a pivotal and basic building block in any connection you have with a woman. To boot, you come to apprehend a woman’s intent and character by the conveyance of innumerable details. For better or worse, there are manifest signals and inklings disclosed at the time of connecting or noticing. Repeatedly, these social cues are invisible to our preferred medium, as women convey their intent furtively and by divergent means than men. In order to puzzle out any woman, you must be capable of interpreting her gesture, not her word.

Behaviour is the Gauge

A woman’s behaviour is her medium of communication. By contrast, women are governed by emotion; men are governed by logic. Women convey intent by gesture, men convey intent by word. This simple variance often puzzles man, as he assumes that a woman’s predilection is identical to his own, and that by acceding to his preferred medium, he is encouraging desire by directness; this attitude is not superior. Keep in mind, women are passionate by nature; hence their word is a capricious gauge that clashes with their behaviour – they [women] are deficient in reason and disposed to negative emotion.

A feeling woman does not mean what she says, and what she says has little meaning. Yet, the majority of men influence women to their disservice by unawareness. They hardly recognize the vanity in argument, or the crumbling of a poisoned relationship. You need to accustom yourself to feminine nature to truly understand how a woman operates. If you are incompetent in reading obvious social cues, you will unavoidably employ yourself incorrectly. Moreover, you will be misled and utilised by a woman who most likely revealed herself to you by her signalling.

Good Sense and Solid Boundaries

In reality, man pays dearly for his imbecility. He disregards what is obvious and manifest and engrosses himself with what is by collation irrelevant and unfounded. Cultivate a basic sense to carefully piece together women’s actions, breaking off the frail tendency to overlook her faithlessness by your spinelessness. You must recast your centre, and point your heedfulness to what is actually significant, not to what is inherently misused and deserted by the feminine.

As you’ll discover, women require restriction to be regulated. At the outset, a woman might subconsciously overlook the worth of solid boundaries, but soon, she will appreciate and abide by your authority for having aptly enforced your law. A sound man pertinently and justly deals with woman’s disloyalty; when called for, he penalizes her betrayal by being obstinately unforgiving and disengaged. If she’s a graceful woman, it is mutually beneficial to impose firm and purposive limits when her behaviour slackens and leans to vulgarity and crudity.

Compassionate Detachment

I am not suggesting being intemperately proprietorial, but competent in adjusting her chaos by practising what I call ‘compassionate detachment’. If you’re mad in your detachment, you’re overly unresponsive and cool; such sharp indifference will attain the futile contrary. You can be indifferent to her ills, in that you don’t bear uncurbed feelings and grow emotionally abashed. In short, you are impassive to her disorder, yet caring of her distress – you are not in jeopardy by her adversity; as a result, you are apt to soothe her. Objectivity demands a degree of careful understanding, so it weakens a woman’s burden of emotion and disarray. A rational man is unsusceptible to her chaos and is thus inclined to be a source of strength to her. If he is liable to grow confounded by her misfortune, he is unfit to carry out his role and relieve her spirit. You are her unshakeable rock among the turbulences of life. If you are shortly destroyed by disaster, you are flimsy; your duty amidst the destruction that occupies your and her existence is to sturdily stand your ground, withstanding the compulsion to cave in and fall to pieces.

Manifestations of Truthful Desire

A sought-after man leaves a compelling, almost intoxicating impression on a woman, and once captured by his charm, her collectedness is quickly unsettled. In what seems like an instant, she lets her inhibition fall. A woman who is perfectly riveted by your presence will not invalidate her own behaviour; any effort to do so will threaten her opportunity to be with you. You can rest assured that if she’s seeking intimacy, you will, if you have basic sense, quickly pick out her clear attempts to seduce you. When a woman is enthralled, she will move mountains. You will be astonished by the extent of her effort to make her desire plainly obvious to you. Once a woman’s avidity seizes her, she is unmistakably tenacious, doing what is immediately feasible to get her way. Remember: it will not be as obvious in her word as it will be in her gesture. In spite of that, an interested woman will not disconcert by word or foster uncertainty in a man she wants to be involved with. If you observe a woman among the weak, however, you will find that she can be quite overbearing as a consequence of their inferiority. When she knows that none of the men among her will thrust their will and dominate her, she is intrinsically inclined to destruction and exploitation, even savagery when it’s convenient and adequately ‘plausible’.

Forgiveness and Barbarity

The majority of men have grown unduly forgiving of her barbarity and inadequate to penalize it; they are absurdly in jeopardy of being misled and lied to. Discernibly, these are not the only reasons; if you are unable to inflict correction, you lack backbone. You must solidify your will and break off the tendency to compromise integrity by forgiveness, leniency, and unwarranted permission. When you compromise integrity, you enforce and encourage indecency. If you once permit disgraceful behaviour, you have shown her that it’s easy to take you for granted. She will not overlook your weakness, only use it to her benefit. The corrective is circumvention at all costs. A woman who knows her crudity will immediately be punished by a formidable man will seldom dare cross the line; she knows there will be a burdensome price to be paid. Furthermore, she knows too that her obscenity will never be neglected by the respectable – this bullies any compulsion for disloyalty. Having said that, a woman will not feel impelled to be unfaithful to a man who neither deprives her of guidance nor binds her to infirmity, as his nature is superior enough to keep any fancies for treachery at bay.

Conclusion

In short, most men are missing, among other things, the basic foreknowledge of how women operate. Women are not as mysterious as you envisage, actually many of them have grown shallow, feigned and short-sighted. This basic foreknowledge is not elaborate or difficult to comprehend, but could prove exceptionally useful to you if you have lived in the dark with regards to women’s moves. There is an advantageous art to discerning and unravelling women’s suggestions. When you have foreknowledge, you can always downplay your power to stir up a level of excitement and unease in a woman; such feelings are memorable and full of life. Without some strife, there is little tension but where there is tension, there is thrilling pleasure. Often, women are unconscious of what they’re frankly conveying in their behaviour; thus making it the most reliable gauge of their intent. You must gain an understanding of what a woman is saying, not in her word, but in her gesture. Use her medium for mutual benefit while preserving your reason and directing the game.